|
|
Number
of respondents
|
%
of respondents
|
| Mother
|
43
|
30
|
| Father
|
15
|
11
|
| Brother/sister
|
15
|
11
|
| Another
relative |
15
|
11
|
| Your
partner (or girlfriend/boyfriend) |
50
|
35
|
| A
friend |
90
|
63
|
| A
teacher |
12
|
8
|
| A
GP (Family doctor) |
28
|
20
|
| A
social worker |
12
|
8
|
| A
psychologist or psychiatrist |
25
|
18
|
| A
telephone helpline |
13
|
9
|
| A
drop-in/advice centre |
7
|
5
|
| Other
source (e.g. Internet, book, magazine or other person etc.)
|
43
|
30
|
Results
for men and women
| |
Males
|
Females
|
| Mother
|
23
|
32
|
| Father
|
17
|
9
|
| Brother/sister
|
3
|
12
|
| Another
relative |
20
|
8
|
| Your
partner (or girlfriend/boyfriend) |
37
|
35
|
| A
friend |
63
|
63
|
| A
teacher |
13
|
7
|
| A
GP (Family doctor) |
20
|
20
|
| A
social worker |
17
|
6
|
| A
psychologist or psychiatrist |
23
|
16
|
| A
telephone helpline |
10
|
9
|
| A
drop-in/advice centre |
7
|
4
|
| Other
source (e.g. Internet, book, magazine or other person etc.)
|
37
|
29
|
If
'no' to all of the above, please say why you didn't try to get
any help. (All responses listed below)
Afraid of being judged, stigma,
don't want to worry others
Although it seems like a big issue
to me, it wouldn't have to them. Also I find a lot misunderstand
what I am talking about or what I am trying to tell them.
Apart from the friend, the others
would judge and exaggerate.
At the time it was my boredom
to bear.
Because all the people above just
make it worse and I can deal with everything on my own, I don't
need people helping me thinking that they know me.
Because I knew I would be able
to overcoat it and I didn't want people thinking any different
of me.
because people have a tendency
to judge the person who has self harmed, calling them 'weak'
and 'looking for attention'
Did not feel it was important.
Did not want it.
Didn't think I really needed to.
Didn't want to burden more family,
didn't have a partner and had too much pride to ring up or read
leaflets. didnt want any
Didn't want to put my family through
it again.
Don't like talking about it, seeking
for advice, I prefer dealing with my problems myself.
Don't want to worry my mother
& be an embarrassment to my family.
Don't feel I can talk about stuff
-
Don't need help of anyone.
Don't need it. (2)
Feel ashamed/embarrassed to talk
about my cuts and no one would care as everyone else has bigger
problems/more important so why waste other's time when they
don't care.
I didn't because it wasn't bad
and stopped. It didn't make me feel any better. Only did it
once.
I didn't feel that I could trust
them nor did I feel that they would understand.
I didn't see what they could do
as they wouldn't understand.
I would see a psychologist but
we can't afford it and I don't want to talk to my GP and worry
my mum.
I didn't try to get help. My sister
found me having a fit I was rushed to hospital the doctor get
help for me.
I didn't want to talk about it
or worry anyone.
I didn't want to worry anyone,
and they might try to shop me.
I didn't know who to talk too.
I didn't need to, I am able to
stop myself.
I didn't want anyone to know.
I didn't want help at that time
I didn't want to worry anyone.
I didn't want to.
I do not like to depend on people,
or be seen as a burden, or have others pity me. If I have a
problem I should be more than capable of dealing with it myself.
"On the last occasion", it was "very spur of the moment," a
build-up of emotion that needed a release. Looking back it was
very foolish of me, as the saying goes, you should never make
permanent decisions based on temporary emotions.
I don't want them to be disappointed
in me.
I don't want to worry anyone.
I don't feel I need any help.
I don't know I don't like talking
about it with anyone. Other people have enough problems to deal
with without having to deal with mine as well.
I don't think social worker a
are very good and I felt nobody else could have solved my issue
and my family have enough to deal with so I kept the problem
to myself.
I don't trust the majority of
people and those whom I do, I didn't want to bother with my
problems.
I feel like I don't need it. I
don't want to make a hassle over nothing; my mum doesn't need
more stress.
I feel that my form of self-harm
isn't serious enough-don't know if it's considered self-harm
(I make myself vomit on purpose).
I felt alone. Scared people wouldn't
believe me/mock me.
I felt ashamed of doing it; I
did not want to worry my mother or the rest of my family. I
did not want my school to know because they would tell my mother.
I felt embarrassed, and I felt
that if I told someone they would just laugh and say I was 'attention
seeking'! Also, I knew it was only a thought in my head and
I wouldn't do anything to myself.
I felt like I was a waste of their
time and that I don't deserve help or kindness from anyone.
I felt that they might think
I been dramatic also I knew it would have to sort itself out
sooner or later.
I felt that this would add to
their worries and they did not need that. Also, I felt embarrassed
and a little scared of what they might think of me. I thought
that I could fix the problem myself.
I just tried my best to stay away
from the razor blade and talk myself out of it.
i knew i had to talk to someone,
so i choose my best friend, and she was there for me all the
way
I knew it was a phase.
I never had any self-harm thoughts.
I only seeked help from those
I felt comfortable talking about that stuff to.
I sorted the problems out myself,
but I would never harm myself.
I tend to overcome problems by
myself and do not wish to worry others
I was afraid of what people would
think of me. I have a reputation of being a smart, mature, reasonable
individual - people often speak to me about their problems.
If anyone knew I was hurting myself to release stress they would
think I had mental health problems. People would look at me
differently.
I was too scared
I'd never actually be able to
go through with taking an overdose etc.
I'im too scared
It is a sensitive and embarrassing
matter
It is probably the hardest thing
to talk about because someone might think you are crazy. So
I thought about it and realized how it could affect my family
so I sorted it out and dealt with the problem that was making
me think like this.
It may have been embarrassing
and I know I can handle things myself.
It seemed embarrassing to talk
about.
It seems everyone has their own
problems and want have enough time/interest and the problem
will go away shortly so its painless to dwell on.
it seems like you're attention
seeking It was on the brink of the moment, and I felt stupid
afterwards.
Its not serious
Keeping my options open.
music helped me survive
Realized that it was silly and
I could sort out my problems rather than doing risky things.
Situation at the time, felt I
couldn't depend on anyone.
To afraid
Was able to sort it out myself.
What's the point
Would feel awkward about discussing
my problems with someone. Afraid they would not view them as
a big issue.
Would not listen/would feel stigma
attached to thoughts
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